Why Is It So Hard to Start? Energy, Motivation & Capacity

Why is it sometimes so hard to start something we genuinely want to do?

Sometimes the problem isn’t the idea. It isn’t even discipline. We may simply have less energy and capacity available in that moment to turn intention into action.

My mom has always told me that in Korea they have a saying:

“Once you start, you’re halfway done.”

I’ve found that’s especially true when we’re energy rich—when more energy, adaptability, and room for action are available to us.

Sometimes motivation strikes. We get a great idea, set a new goal, or suddenly know exactly what we want to do.

And then we think ourselves out of starting.

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I’ll start when things calm down.”

“I should wait until I can do it right.”

We spend all the energy of creation thinking about what we could do instead of actually doing it.

Why is it so hard to start when we feel overwhelmed?

Often there is the perfect amount of time.

Not always enough time to finish everything—but enough time to start.

Once we begin, the next step often becomes clear. Or we find a natural stopping point we couldn’t see before.

From the outside, the task looked too big.

But once we’re in motion, we realize:

Oh… I can just do this part for now.

That first step changes our relationship with the whole thing.

Instead of carrying the entire project around in our head, we are finally interacting with something real.

Why does motivation seem easier when we have more energy?

When we’re energy rich, those little moments of motivation often seem to appear more naturally.

We suddenly want to make the phone call.

Clean one small area.

Go for a walk.

Stretch.

Start the project.

Take care of the thing we’ve been avoiding.

I don’t think every impulse needs to be followed immediately. But I do think those moments are worth noticing.

Sometimes the key isn’t making a better plan.

Sometimes the key is trusting the energy that is available and simply starting.

This is one reason I think capacity matters so much.

When more energy is available, we often have more room for creativity, action, connection, healing, exercise, parenting, work, and growth.

It doesn’t mean we should be highly energized all the time. It means our system has enough adaptability to move into action when action is needed—and to settle and recover when that is what we need instead.

What if I had a great idea earlier but don’t feel like doing it anymore?

This is where things get interesting.

Sometimes we have a great idea or burst of motivation while we’re in a richer-energy state, but we can’t act on it right away.

Later, our energy changes.

And suddenly the thing we were excited about sounds like a terrible idea.

I still think those ideas are worth coming back to.

Following through on something that came from a richer-energy state can sometimes help reconnect us with what that version of ourselves could see.

This happens with me and Sarah all the time.

I’ll say something I want to do while I’m in a richer-energy state, and later she’ll hold me to it when I no longer feel like doing it.

It’s super fun… lol.

But it’s actually one of the best things she does for me.

Sometimes the higher-energy version of us can see something the lower-energy version forgets.

Sometimes we need another person—or simply a commitment we made to ourselves—to help us remember what we knew when more energy was available.

What does the nervous system have to do with motivation and capacity?

I think of nervous-system regulation as more than simply “being calm.”

A healthy, adaptable system needs to be able to activate when something requires action, settle when the demand passes, recover, and then have energy available again for whatever comes next.

That ability to shift is part of capacity.

It’s also part of how we think about Network Spinal care at Next Level Chiropractic Dallas.

Network Spinal uses gentle contacts, awareness, breathing, and movement as part of a nervous-system-focused approach to care. The goal isn’t to force someone into a particular state or to be relaxed all the time. The larger conversation is about adaptability—having more options available in how we respond to life.

And sometimes one of those options is simply being able to begin.

So when the energy shows up, notice it.

You don’t have to finish the whole journey at once.

You just have to start.

Goals That Match the New You

After energy begins to shift, it can be helpful to make a goal.

A goal gives that new energy somewhere to go. It turns possibility into direction and helps us begin participating in the change already happening within us.

But as we set goals, it is worth asking whether they match the person we are becoming—or whether we are still carrying goals created by an earlier version of ourselves.

There may be goals you created years ago that made perfect sense at the time. Perhaps they came from a season of stress, pressure, survival, or trying to prove something. They may have helped you move through that part of your life.

But that does not necessarily mean they still belong in the life you are creating now.

A goal that once felt motivating may eventually begin to feel heavy. A goal that once helped you survive may keep your attention organized around survival, even after your circumstances and capacity have changed.

Sometimes we continue pursuing a goal simply because we have carried it for so long. We do not stop to ask whether reaching it would still create the life we actually want.

Every once in a while, it helps to check in:

Does this goal still move me forward?

Does it match the person I am becoming?

Does it create more energy, connection, possibility, and life?

Or am I still carrying it because I have never stopped to question it?

This matters in care too.

As the body and nervous system begin developing greater awareness and adaptability, what we want may begin to change. Our capacity may change. Our priorities may change. Even the way we understand healing, growth, and what is possible for our lives may change.

The goal that originally brought someone into care may still matter. But it may no longer be the whole story.

Someone may begin care wanting less pain and later discover that they also want more energy, greater emotional bandwidth, deeper connection, or more ability to participate in their life.

The goal did not fail. The person grew.

Sometimes growth means reaching a goal. Sometimes it means becoming aware enough to update it. And sometimes it means releasing a goal because it belongs to a version of ourselves we are no longer trying to become.

So take a moment to check in with your goals.

Some may still fit perfectly.

Energy shifts first

Before habits change, before movement improves, before pain begins to decrease, and before someone starts exercising, eating better, cleaning more, or showing up differently in life, something less visible often happens first.

There is a shift in energy.

We usually notice the external change. Someone begins exercising, and their body starts moving differently. Someone prepares better meals, and their health begins to change. Someone becomes more functional, and everyday life starts to feel easier.

But underneath those visible changes, something had to become available first.

There had to be enough energy to begin.

It takes energy to make a different choice. It takes energy to prepare the meal, take the walk, do the workout, clean the room, have the difficult conversation, or respond with greater patience and presence.

Even rest requires a certain kind of available energy—the ability to stop, soften, and trust that everything does not have to be held together through effort.

When the nervous system is overwhelmed, simple things can feel unusually heavy. This does not necessarily mean that we are lazy, unmotivated, or that we do not care. It may mean that much of our available energy is already being used to manage stress, tension, protection, recovery, or simply getting through the day.

There may not be enough left over for change.

This is one way Network Spinal care can support the process. Through gentle, precise contacts, an entrainment invites the nervous system to become more aware of how it is organizing tension, breath, posture, and movement.

As the system becomes more connected and discovers more efficient ways of organizing itself, some of the energy previously committed to protection may begin to become available again.

The first sign of healing is not always that the pain is gone or that everything has been fixed.

Sometimes the first sign is a deeper breath. A little more ease. A new idea. A desire to go for a walk. The energy to clean one small part of the room. The ability to respond differently in a moment that would normally feel overwhelming.

Sometimes the first sign is simply that one new choice has become possible.

That choice may appear small from the outside, but it can represent a much larger internal shift. It may mean that the nervous system is no longer using all of its energy just to hold everything together.

Energy shifts first.

Then more choices become available.

And one small choice made from a different energy state can become the beginning of a much bigger change.

How to Deal with Stress and Instability | Nervous System Support

When Instability Strikes

This week’s email is once again inspired by our personal lives. Sometimes life is going really well and then—bam—the universe hits you with a dose of instability. That just happened to us.

Sarah hurt her knee playing soccer yesterday morning. It was her first game back with her team since having Rumi, and her knee hyperextended with multiple pops. She can’t walk or bear weight yet, but we’re treating it aggressively and are hopeful she’ll be back on her feet soon. This is why I’ll be closing this afternoon and opening on Saturday.

Too much instability triggers the stress response, and you might notice your body start to react in unpleasant ways: your shoulders rise, muscles tighten, and your breathing becomes short and shallow. Awareness of these sensations is the key to moving back toward stability. It’s important to bring your body back to a sense of stability before trying to use your mind to figure things out.

Here are a few things to do when instability strikes:

  • Notice your spine.
  • Lengthen your exhale.
  • Ask: What higher order is trying to emerge?
  • Organize the next smallest step.

Don’t try to stabilize everything—just focus on stabilizing yourself. Only then will you have the energy to reorganize.

In the epienergetics model, instability is not something to be feared or avoided. Instead, it’s a pathway to a new, higher level of stability. In this way, instability can be an upgrade disguised as an inconvenience. I’m curious to see how our lives evolve for the better after this period of instability.

Almost no wrong movements

As far as what you do on the entrainment table, there is almost no wrong. This is true as long as you are listening to your body. Movements, stretching and/or repositioning your body are an important part of Network. Let’s look at moving your legs as an example. Your nervous system might have you move your legs for many different reasons. You might need to move the muscles, pump the lymph, stimulate nerves, move energy or even use your legs as a lever to adjust your pelvis. Sometimes you might just find yourself bending your knees or ankles automatically, and sometimes you might get an urge to do so consciously. The body can use muscles anywhere in your body for the above reasons including using your arms to affect your neck. 

The only time we will ask you to stop a movement, or positional change is when it is driving defense or reenforcing old habits instead of growth. Not stopping these movements or positional changes could have you energetically spinning your wheels or even draining energy.

What does it mean to be relaxed?

What does it mean to be relaxed after your entrainments?

First of all, it feels good to be relaxed and we intuitively know that it is good for us. The longer its been since we have been relaxed, the more noticeable the effect will be.

In general, being relaxed post entrainment means that your Nervous System has been operating at least partially in fight, flight or freeze as a default. This is common in todays world. There are countless demands on our time and attention as well as many other stressors in everyday life. Network Spinal entrainments help to calm this part of your nervous system and also help to stimulate the parasympathetic or rest and digest part of your nervous system.

In stress mode, our auto pilot is focused on our external environment in order to reach for threats to our safety. When we relax, our bodies are able to take a breath and take a look at what’s going on inside of us. This internal focus allows for greater healing, cellular repair, and of course higher quality resting and digesting.

When we think of rest and digest, we commonly think of food digestion. However, when this part of our Nervous System is active, we also are able to process undigested thoughts, feelings and emotions. Just like undigested food, these things can build up and weigh us down.

When the change from pre entrainment to post entrainment is exceptionally large, in terms of a revved up or stressed nervous system to a calm Nervous system, you might experience a crash or extreme tiredness a little while after your entrainment. If you can, this is a wonderful opportunity to listen to your body and give it the rest that it needs.

Next Level Chiropractic

14200 Midway Dallas TX 75244

Network spinal and breathing

Network helps us breath better on and off the table. It stimulates and activates dormant and often unused parts of of respiratory systems as well as resetting our natural pattern of slow deep breathing. All of this happens automatically. An important caveat is that during entrainments, you do not need to try to breather deeper or control your breath.

Here are some simple guidelines for conscious healthy breathing:

Its almost always best to breath in and out your nose. This warms and cleans the air, and it helps absorb oxygen better. You can also breath out your mouth with pursed lips if you are not able to exhale through your nose. Either way, it is helpful to place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth behind your front teeth. Side note: You will feel like you are suffocating the first few days of practicing exclusive nose nose breathing. This is a short adaption period and it can be helpful to use a pulse ox to monitor your oxygen levels. Humans today are chronic over breathers and your oxygen levels will likely be fine even though you feel like you don’t have enough air.

Now lets take Network principles into account.

Breathing in your mouth and out your nose is appropriate and natural in moments of Awaken, awe or ecstasy. Essentially, when something is so great that it takes your breath away, you might find yourself mouth breathing for a small while.

Breathing in and out your mouth is also associated with merging an old way of doing things with a new way.

You might also need to breath in your mouth during entrainments in order to get enough air in or to activate the season of transform and/or awaken.

Take deep slow breaths into into your stomach to activate your diaphragm.

Exception: Focused Heart breathing uses more of the secondary respiratory muscles. The benefit of this type of breathing comes from the focus on your heart.

The ideal breath is roughly 5.5 seconds in the nose and 5.5 seconds out the nose. Practicing this even for a few minutes a day can have huge benefits and help you re learn to breathe through your nose. Come see us when you are in Dalas!

Torticollis in older kids

Stress is sneaky. We often don’t notice it building up or the effects it has on us. This is partly because increased stress activates our fight or flight response, and when this happens our body awareness goes down. We then stop our healthy habits which lets stress build up even more. Our bodies do a great job adapting to let us keep pushing forward until we reach a critical mass of stress storage. When this happens, old pains or problems come back and/or new pains and problems show up.

We are seeing signs of increased stress and stress storage in both adults and kids over the last months. Some of these include; people having more headaches and pains, more tension in both the active and passive systems, people complaining about sleeping wrong or not being able to sleep, people stopping healthily habits because they do not have time or energy, people getting sick and more.

Most noteworthy is that we have seen multiple cases of severe torticollis or wryneck in school age kids. Prior to this year, we have only had 2 cases in 13 years of practice. Both of these were in very young children. Network spinal is a great way to quickly resolve this issue. This seems to be a sign of increased stress everywhere. We are all feeling it, or at least we are all subconsciously experiencing it if we are not feeling it.

Things we can do:

We can all do our best to keep up healthy stress mitigating habits.

We can view stress as making us stronger by challenging our nervous systems (akin to working out)

We can focus on the good and practice gratitude for what we do have and what is working

Regular entrainments also help to process stored stress and to keep our nervous systems in growth and out of fight or flight mode.

Too many body apps open?

Do you ever leave too many apps open on your phone or too many programs running on your computer? I’m pretty sure we have all been there. Our phones or computers start to glitch or not work as fast. As soon as we close out the unneeded apps or programs, things go back to normal. 

The body works the same way 

Sometimes we have multiple phases or patterns happening at the same time. We could be subconsciously still holding on to prior emotions and thoughts from days, months or even years ago. These thoughts and emotions might pop up consciously from time to time and then go away again. 

Network helps close these extra apps. Said differently, Network entrainments help us connect to and process these recurring loop emotions and thoughts so that we can return to a calmer baseline. 

Sometimes these are the entrainments that you can’t seem to relax or tune in. These entrainments are just as beneficial as ones that are deeply relaxing or energizing, just in a different way. 

Donny’s concept of AAA helps us close out apps (thoughts and emotions) in real time. Here is a link to an old newsletter about AAA https://nextlevelchirodallas.com/epienergetic-seasons-aaa-and-the-gap/

Being Stuck

I saw a cool quote online this morning. This is what is said: I told my friend I was emotionally hitting a wall and she said, “Sometimes walls are there so we can lean on them and rest”

What if being stuck was not always a bad thing? What if being stuck in life was the universe saying that we need to stop and reevaluate the direction we are trying to go. That the direction we are trying to go is ultimately not the right direction for us. A repeated forced pause is a great opportunity to discover other options or directions.

Stage 3 in Donny Epistein’s Somato Respiratory Integration (SRI) is all about being Stuck in a Perspective. The classic stage 3 experience is: I am stuck or blocked in my body (shoulder or back for example) or in my life. I keep looping or coming back to this same stuckness in my body or life. This occurs in middle to late discover care, and this is where we start to take personal responsibility for the way things are. We begin to see how we are contributing or causing our troubles and stuckness. Some times, the stuckness is simply us trying to force something that is not right for us.

The stuck in stage 3 is what allows energy to build up for a breakthrough (often this breakthrough is the stage 4 experience we talked about last week).

The goal with this stage is a peaceful waiting while the energy needed to breakthrough builds over time. I am not saying stage 3 feels good or is a fun experience in any way. However, being stuck is a part of healing and life, so we might as well get the most out of it. A good way to do this is to pause and AAA your stuckness. As a reminder, AAA stands for being Aware, Acknowledging and Accepting the way things are. Doing this and knowing that being stuck can ultimately be part of your path, can help us be more comfortable in the uncomfortable place of being stuck.

Network Spinal care can also help you move through the 12 Stages of Healing /SRI stages.

Let us know if you feel stuck and would like to do stage 3 breathing at your next visit- 14200 Midway Suite 110 Dallas, Tx 75244.