Why Is It So Hard to Start? Energy, Motivation & Capacity

Why is it sometimes so hard to start something we genuinely want to do?

Sometimes the problem isn’t the idea. It isn’t even discipline. We may simply have less energy and capacity available in that moment to turn intention into action.

My mom has always told me that in Korea they have a saying:

“Once you start, you’re halfway done.”

I’ve found that’s especially true when we’re energy rich—when more energy, adaptability, and room for action are available to us.

Sometimes motivation strikes. We get a great idea, set a new goal, or suddenly know exactly what we want to do.

And then we think ourselves out of starting.

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I’ll start when things calm down.”

“I should wait until I can do it right.”

We spend all the energy of creation thinking about what we could do instead of actually doing it.

Why is it so hard to start when we feel overwhelmed?

Often there is the perfect amount of time.

Not always enough time to finish everything—but enough time to start.

Once we begin, the next step often becomes clear. Or we find a natural stopping point we couldn’t see before.

From the outside, the task looked too big.

But once we’re in motion, we realize:

Oh… I can just do this part for now.

That first step changes our relationship with the whole thing.

Instead of carrying the entire project around in our head, we are finally interacting with something real.

Why does motivation seem easier when we have more energy?

When we’re energy rich, those little moments of motivation often seem to appear more naturally.

We suddenly want to make the phone call.

Clean one small area.

Go for a walk.

Stretch.

Start the project.

Take care of the thing we’ve been avoiding.

I don’t think every impulse needs to be followed immediately. But I do think those moments are worth noticing.

Sometimes the key isn’t making a better plan.

Sometimes the key is trusting the energy that is available and simply starting.

This is one reason I think capacity matters so much.

When more energy is available, we often have more room for creativity, action, connection, healing, exercise, parenting, work, and growth.

It doesn’t mean we should be highly energized all the time. It means our system has enough adaptability to move into action when action is needed—and to settle and recover when that is what we need instead.

What if I had a great idea earlier but don’t feel like doing it anymore?

This is where things get interesting.

Sometimes we have a great idea or burst of motivation while we’re in a richer-energy state, but we can’t act on it right away.

Later, our energy changes.

And suddenly the thing we were excited about sounds like a terrible idea.

I still think those ideas are worth coming back to.

Following through on something that came from a richer-energy state can sometimes help reconnect us with what that version of ourselves could see.

This happens with me and Sarah all the time.

I’ll say something I want to do while I’m in a richer-energy state, and later she’ll hold me to it when I no longer feel like doing it.

It’s super fun… lol.

But it’s actually one of the best things she does for me.

Sometimes the higher-energy version of us can see something the lower-energy version forgets.

Sometimes we need another person—or simply a commitment we made to ourselves—to help us remember what we knew when more energy was available.

What does the nervous system have to do with motivation and capacity?

I think of nervous-system regulation as more than simply “being calm.”

A healthy, adaptable system needs to be able to activate when something requires action, settle when the demand passes, recover, and then have energy available again for whatever comes next.

That ability to shift is part of capacity.

It’s also part of how we think about Network Spinal care at Next Level Chiropractic Dallas.

Network Spinal uses gentle contacts, awareness, breathing, and movement as part of a nervous-system-focused approach to care. The goal isn’t to force someone into a particular state or to be relaxed all the time. The larger conversation is about adaptability—having more options available in how we respond to life.

And sometimes one of those options is simply being able to begin.

So when the energy shows up, notice it.

You don’t have to finish the whole journey at once.

You just have to start.

Goals That Match the New You

After energy begins to shift, it can be helpful to make a goal.

A goal gives that new energy somewhere to go. It turns possibility into direction and helps us begin participating in the change already happening within us.

But as we set goals, it is worth asking whether they match the person we are becoming—or whether we are still carrying goals created by an earlier version of ourselves.

There may be goals you created years ago that made perfect sense at the time. Perhaps they came from a season of stress, pressure, survival, or trying to prove something. They may have helped you move through that part of your life.

But that does not necessarily mean they still belong in the life you are creating now.

A goal that once felt motivating may eventually begin to feel heavy. A goal that once helped you survive may keep your attention organized around survival, even after your circumstances and capacity have changed.

Sometimes we continue pursuing a goal simply because we have carried it for so long. We do not stop to ask whether reaching it would still create the life we actually want.

Every once in a while, it helps to check in:

Does this goal still move me forward?

Does it match the person I am becoming?

Does it create more energy, connection, possibility, and life?

Or am I still carrying it because I have never stopped to question it?

This matters in care too.

As the body and nervous system begin developing greater awareness and adaptability, what we want may begin to change. Our capacity may change. Our priorities may change. Even the way we understand healing, growth, and what is possible for our lives may change.

The goal that originally brought someone into care may still matter. But it may no longer be the whole story.

Someone may begin care wanting less pain and later discover that they also want more energy, greater emotional bandwidth, deeper connection, or more ability to participate in their life.

The goal did not fail. The person grew.

Sometimes growth means reaching a goal. Sometimes it means becoming aware enough to update it. And sometimes it means releasing a goal because it belongs to a version of ourselves we are no longer trying to become.

So take a moment to check in with your goals.

Some may still fit perfectly.

Energy shifts first

Before habits change, before movement improves, before pain begins to decrease, and before someone starts exercising, eating better, cleaning more, or showing up differently in life, something less visible often happens first.

There is a shift in energy.

We usually notice the external change. Someone begins exercising, and their body starts moving differently. Someone prepares better meals, and their health begins to change. Someone becomes more functional, and everyday life starts to feel easier.

But underneath those visible changes, something had to become available first.

There had to be enough energy to begin.

It takes energy to make a different choice. It takes energy to prepare the meal, take the walk, do the workout, clean the room, have the difficult conversation, or respond with greater patience and presence.

Even rest requires a certain kind of available energy—the ability to stop, soften, and trust that everything does not have to be held together through effort.

When the nervous system is overwhelmed, simple things can feel unusually heavy. This does not necessarily mean that we are lazy, unmotivated, or that we do not care. It may mean that much of our available energy is already being used to manage stress, tension, protection, recovery, or simply getting through the day.

There may not be enough left over for change.

This is one way Network Spinal care can support the process. Through gentle, precise contacts, an entrainment invites the nervous system to become more aware of how it is organizing tension, breath, posture, and movement.

As the system becomes more connected and discovers more efficient ways of organizing itself, some of the energy previously committed to protection may begin to become available again.

The first sign of healing is not always that the pain is gone or that everything has been fixed.

Sometimes the first sign is a deeper breath. A little more ease. A new idea. A desire to go for a walk. The energy to clean one small part of the room. The ability to respond differently in a moment that would normally feel overwhelming.

Sometimes the first sign is simply that one new choice has become possible.

That choice may appear small from the outside, but it can represent a much larger internal shift. It may mean that the nervous system is no longer using all of its energy just to hold everything together.

Energy shifts first.

Then more choices become available.

And one small choice made from a different energy state can become the beginning of a much bigger change.

How to Deal with Stress and Instability | Nervous System Support

When Instability Strikes

This week’s email is once again inspired by our personal lives. Sometimes life is going really well and then—bam—the universe hits you with a dose of instability. That just happened to us.

Sarah hurt her knee playing soccer yesterday morning. It was her first game back with her team since having Rumi, and her knee hyperextended with multiple pops. She can’t walk or bear weight yet, but we’re treating it aggressively and are hopeful she’ll be back on her feet soon. This is why I’ll be closing this afternoon and opening on Saturday.

Too much instability triggers the stress response, and you might notice your body start to react in unpleasant ways: your shoulders rise, muscles tighten, and your breathing becomes short and shallow. Awareness of these sensations is the key to moving back toward stability. It’s important to bring your body back to a sense of stability before trying to use your mind to figure things out.

Here are a few things to do when instability strikes:

  • Notice your spine.
  • Lengthen your exhale.
  • Ask: What higher order is trying to emerge?
  • Organize the next smallest step.

Don’t try to stabilize everything—just focus on stabilizing yourself. Only then will you have the energy to reorganize.

In the epienergetics model, instability is not something to be feared or avoided. Instead, it’s a pathway to a new, higher level of stability. In this way, instability can be an upgrade disguised as an inconvenience. I’m curious to see how our lives evolve for the better after this period of instability.

How to Regulate Your Nervous System Through Presence

How Network Spinal Chiropractic Supports Energy and Focus

Being aware of where you focus is a great way to help support your energetic state. When you focus on something, you are giving it energy. When you give things energy, they tend to stick around or grow. This is why it’s great to see/focus on the plus side or gift in things when possible. This is much easier to do when you have enough energy. When you are lacking energy, its easier to see the negative or downside of things.

While seeing the good or bad side of things is influenced heavily by your energetic state, you can also choose where you focus. You can choose to focus on the good, love or gratitude even when you don’t have the energy for that to be your default. We can all choose these things even when things are not going well or we feel like crap. Doing so can help raise our energy which can help turn things around.

Network helps you have more energy and more energy efficiency so that your default setting leans toward the good side of things. That said, sometimes you still have to make the choice of where you focus. Just like focusing on the good can help raise your energy, focusing on the bad or on what’s going wrong can lower your energy.

Almost no wrong movements

As far as what you do on the entrainment table, there is almost no wrong. This is true as long as you are listening to your body. Movements, stretching and/or repositioning your body are an important part of Network. Let’s look at moving your legs as an example. Your nervous system might have you move your legs for many different reasons. You might need to move the muscles, pump the lymph, stimulate nerves, move energy or even use your legs as a lever to adjust your pelvis. Sometimes you might just find yourself bending your knees or ankles automatically, and sometimes you might get an urge to do so consciously. The body can use muscles anywhere in your body for the above reasons including using your arms to affect your neck. 

The only time we will ask you to stop a movement, or positional change is when it is driving defense or reenforcing old habits instead of growth. Not stopping these movements or positional changes could have you energetically spinning your wheels or even draining energy.

Spread the mayo analogy for Network Spinal

I’ve been having some fun recently with a sandwich analogy to describe part of Network care. It can apply to any food where it’s better to have to have a condiment or topping spread out rather than all bunched up. It goes like this

Have you ever had a sandwich where the mayo or mustard was all in one spot and not spread out? If you have, you know that this is not the ideal set up for taste, and there is also a high likelihood of a mess when you get the bite with all of the mayo/mustard. Its far better to have your condiment of choice evenly spread out.

The same is true for energy in your body. People often lay down on the table with too much energy in one part of their body and too little energy in other parts of their bodies, Here is an example.

If you have a large unexpected emotional stress, you might present with an excessive amount of energy in your emotional system. This could lead to tight muscles and tendons as well as a lack of energy in other systems such as your mental, bioenergetic or awaken systems.

The same example can be applied to physical and mental stresses as well. If your body is forced to adapt to a large stress or smaller amounts of stress over time,, it can end up storing too much energy in the system that the stress was experienced in. If this happens, another part or system will respond by having lower energy. This can lead to breakdown of both the system with too much energy and the system or part with too little energy.

In this example, one goal of an entrainment would be to help the body process the extra emotional energy in order to spread the mayo or energy back throughout the whole body, This makes for a healthier body just like spreading the mayo makes for a tastier sandwich.

Turn your head- why?

Have you ever turned your head the wrong way when we ask you to turn left or right?This happens pretty often, and it’s not a big deal at all. Just turn your head the other way when we say to turn your head. 

Turning your head is part of our phase pattern analysis in Network Spinal. Tapping your feet is a quick and easy way to ask you to turn to that side. This also makes things simpler since you just turn your head to the side we tap. If we tap both feet, we are asking you to turn to the middle. We might also ask you to tuck your chin or even lift your head up as part of this analysis. Please only turn your head through pain free motion. Stop turning your head if it hurts and be sure pay attention how this might change during your entrainment. 

When certain phases are present, uneven legs will even when you turn your head. Sometimes this happens quickly and sometimes it takes a few seconds depending on what part of the phase is showing up. Please keep your head turned until we either ask you to turn to the other side or back to the middle.

The phase that deals with legs that even when you turn your head is called phase 2. It deals with how your upper or lower neck act as primary points of critical tension . These primary points then affect the rest of your body. Energetically, this phase deals with trust when there is enough energy and fear when energy is lacking. 

Celebrate small wins!

Something important in Network care, and in life, is to celebrate the small wins. These are the ones that will add up over time to create sustainable change. We are in the habit of wanting the home run every time, myself included. Some small wins that inspired this weeks newsletter were someone having a small but noticeable improvement in their neck pain and tightness after their first visit and someone who has trouble sleeping having noises agate them a bit less. Both of these are reasons to celebrate, and no one is going to celebrate for you- you get to do it. The added bonus is that anytime you have less of something, you open room for more of something else. In these examples, I encouraged them to celebrate both less of the bad but also what they have more of. Less pain and more mobility. Less agitation and more peace.

I hope you find lots of reasons to celebrate this week.